I have a hard time with stress. I am dealing with stress from my mother. Her and I are having a bit of a disagreement right now over some things that have happened. I m also dealing with stress from doctors and the current problems I am having with my eyes and my vision. anyone who knows me well will tell you I don’t do stress. I have a hard time letting it go. I know stress serves a purpose for us in our lives. I just have a difficult time letting it serve its purpose and then moving on from it. what purpose does stress serve for us, you ask? I will elaborate on this.
There is a positive use for stress. It is to help us focus on our problem and find a solution for it. Once we have found that solution stress has served it main purpose and we can let it go. At least this is how it should work. I can’t seem to do that. I will dwell on things and question my solutions to the problem causing me stress. I will be stuck because I just know there is a better solution to this problem. I am awful at second guessing myself.
What I should be doing is allow myself to try the solution my stress has helped me find. in this way I can allow my stress to do its job. I can let it go, at least until the current solution turns out to not work as well as I had hoped. This should just allow for new stress not the continuation of the original stress. If I can keep the stress from building on its self I can use the not so helpful solution to find a better on the next time.
In this way it stays under control and is healthy stress. It will not cause the health problems that unchecked and unhealthy stress can have. Constant stress can do damage to our body and mind.
Some of the effect of stress on our body include headaches, upset stomach, elevated blood pressure, chest pain, and problems sleeping. These effects can worsen our stress and cause the stress effects on our body to increase. It becomes a vicious cycle if left unchecked. Stress affects our emotions and mind as well. It can cause depression, lack of energy, and mental confusion. These in turn can also cause the cycle of continued stress.
I am working on getting my stress under control. I don’t want to be that ball of stress the can’t seem to get anything done. I know that it is just one more stop on my journey to becoming a better husband, father, friend, and all around person. I just keep telling myself that I control my stress and situations, they don’t control me.