I have this problem. First I hate when I have a plan for a particular day and it gets changed. Second I will sulk if I am forced to get out of my comfort zone. Like many people with anger problems I do not like to leave my little box I have created for myself. My wife is great at making plans and not telling me until the day of or at best the day before. I know she does this because I have a thing where I will try anything to get out of it. Given enough time I can come up with a great many reasons why I don’t want to do something. All in an attempt to maintain my little “boxed” world I enjoy so much.
I am a creature of habit. I work six days a week. So on Sundays I enjoy some time to relax and just do nothing. I thought my wife knew this about me but I guess I was wrong. (Cue Social D) This past Sunday she made me one of these things she likes to call a man date. This is where she will take a friend of hers (usually with kids) and plan something for the “children” to do. This is her attempt to get me out of my box and away from my comfort zone. I found out and tried to come up with every thing I could think of to get out of it.
“We need to get groceries for the week. We won’t have time to go over there.”
“I have a ton of work I need to catch up on.”
“I need to get my laundry done or I will not have anything to wear next week.”
She always had some way to get around this. So Sunday came we went and got groceries when we got up. Early grocery shopping really isn’t that bad, small crowds. She had me start my laundry when we got back. I was done long before we had to leave. As for the work, I was told I would have time when we got back.
So we went over to her friend’s house on a Sunday evening. “Oh you will have fun!” I was told. “Be open to new people and places” I was told.
So I went into this hoping for the best but expecting the worst. However instead of being my normal introverted, outcast, pissed off at everyone self I remained open to this new adventure. Here is the funny part, I had a great time. I enjoyed the company, they were really great people. I did not allow myself to go to my default ways. I stayed involved with the conversation.
What did I learn from this? That my wife can be correct sometimes. I can see her face as I type that giving me that look of victory and fulfillment. I also found out that if I change my expectations just a little bit things can turn out to be way better then I thought. I will probably still enjoy my Sundays of relaxation most of the time. I will now be open to the idea of getting out of my comfort zone more to see what I have been missing while I was to scared and angry to really experience the world around me.
Do you have any stories of getting out of your comfort zone? How did they turn out? Share in the comments below.